Ramble,Rant & Roll
- Mature Musings -
Friday, February 14, 2003
Tuesday, February 11, 2003
Who doesn't enjoy flirting, it's a wonderful feeling to flirt and to have people flirt with you. It's sad that some people never get over being jealous when their significant other flirts, or is flirted with to their delight. When we're younger, I guess it's natural to get annoyed and jealous of such behavior, but as adults who are capable of controlling themselves, it's great fun! It doesn't have to be carried "too far" if you or the other person is in a relationship. Not only is it fun and ego boosting, it's healthy for us!
Of course flirting doesn't come as easy for some people as it seems to come for others. I myself have often thought, "damn, what am I doing wrong - he's not 'getting it' or is it he's just not interested?" I usually decide the latter and quit flirting with the guy. Now, there are a lot of aspects of human nature that effect how we flirt; self-esteem, body image, mood, health, confidence, etc. In fact, I've been known to discuss flirting interpretations with my male friends to gain insight as to how I'm being perceived. Hey, it couldn't hurt, right? Mostly I've discovered that I'm too vague when I'm truly interested in more than playful flirting.
However, lately I've been noticing that I'm not 100% sure what some men are trying to convey in how they flirt with me. One guy I work with will walk up behind me and just wait until I notice he's there - then say something like, "I've been wondering how long it would take you to realize I was here -- It's ok though, I like to watch you work" What the hell? (laughing) This same guy, when I'm standing out on break, will walk directly into me, nudging me backwards. Actually, there are two guys that do this walking into me. (????) What's up with this type of flirting? Is it flirting? Guys help me out here, are these guys interested, or just copping a feel? (laughing again)
With all this thinking about flirting I've looked up online to see what I could find on the subject. I actually came across this: SIRC Guide to Flirting.